Randi Kofsky

Something isn’t right. You’ve known It & now it’s nagging you. You have an idea of who you want to be in your life – a friend, a lover, happy, have an overall sense of meaning. You’re not exactly sure what to do and then the thought “I will figure it out”, comes in to calm you almost immediately back to procrastinating in its usual forms. You have tools. Maybe you meditate, do yoga. But when the feelings of Self-Doubt and Inadequacy act up, they take you for a Shameful ride through what could have been & will not be, resulting in “if only I were better at ___.” Pushing you once again, into quiet acceptance of the way things are. Couples: Some things are working. There’s a structure you can rely on. And then there’s what’s not working. You don’t bring them up anymore – why bother? It’s not worth a night of fighting or worse, silent tension. Besides you made it clear where you stand. If s/he cared, s/he’d take care of it. The frustration brews as you think about it, so you don’t. Have