Julee Whaley

“I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND HOW WE GOT HERE.” Sound familiar? It does to me, because I’ve heard it over and over in my office. By the time many couples make it into counseling, they feel disillusioned and angry, even hopeless. Please know, however, that there is hope! Research into relationships shows that couples can discover and change how they interact, leading to a restoration of the connection they once had, or the creation of the one they always wanted. I’m a Marriage and Family Therapist Candidate (MFTC), which means I’ve done all the training necessary for the MFT license, and am currently scheduled to take the MFT exam. The MFT license is important because couples therapy is a specialty that requires extensive training over and above that required to work with individuals. Not every therapist who works with couples is trained to do so, and the results can be damaging. Early in my career, I was lucky enough to be trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). EFT is the fas