John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman founded the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy. The method uses assessments, communication skills, and real-life practices and skills to assist partners in becoming closer to one another.
One of the main theories behind the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is the Sound Relationship House theory. The Gottmans assume that partners can grow closer in a relationship by having a solid foundation of understanding. This foundation begins with safety and builds upon itself to include the goal of creating shared meaning.
Anyone who wants to improve their relationship can benefit from the Gottman Method, including married couples or those in a committed relationship.
The Sound Relationship House theory includes tactics such as knowing one another deeply and creating love maps (details regarding partners personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.), sharing fondness of one another, turning to each other for needs, managing a positive perspective, managing conflict, achieving goals and dreams, and creating shared meaning.
Your counselor will work with you and your partner to develop the necessary skills for relating to each other in a more positive, loving way.
The Gottman Method effectively assists couples in resolving conflict and growing closer together.
Therapists Who Specialize in Using the Gottman Method
My specialties are premarital and couple counseling, issues around sexuality for men and women, and counseling individuals with anxiety, depression and life changes. Couples and individuals who find me helpful often find that they feel stuck and unhappy. They have been unable to reason themselves out of their difficulties yet desperately want to change. They need help figuring out what is going...
Beyond Counseling is a place to explore your true self and confront the trials of life. Together, we create a sacred space for healing, growth, and discovery. As a counselor, hearing your story is one of my greatest privileges. It is my hope that as your life story unfolds, we can better prepare you (the main character) to face and embrace the challenges, opportunities and events that shape you...
The journey through life is uniquely our own and presents each of us with an array of distinctive experiences. We are all faced with transitions and challenges that present us with opportunities to grow, gain insight, heal and explore our personal potential. I am honored to meet you right where you are on your path, provide therapeutic support and find solutions that enable you to live a...
There could be countless reasons why you are here. Perhaps you have trouble managing your day-to-day stress and don't want to get out of bed. Maybe you and your spouse or children are facing a great disruption that seems too much to handle. Or maybe you seem like a different person since being pregnant, and you're concerned that you will never be your old self again. No matter the case, the rea...
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If you are looking for a different type of counselor where you build an authentic relationship, you’re in the right place. To best help my patients, I believe that a solid and authentic relationship must be built between counselor and you. The most important part about counseling is that you feel heard and comfortable throughout this process. Let's work together to help you achieve your emotion...
In private practice in Los Angeles for 25 years. I am a seasoned therapist, with a Doctorate in Psychology and taught Psychology for 15 years. I have written a workbook for couples, and work with several populations, including same sex couples. While relationships are my primary focus, I am also trained in trauma, addictions and gerontology (specializing with clients over the age of 50). You wi...
My passion has always been to work with people; and I love what I do! By the time a person/couple comes to my office she/he is usually experiencing discomfort, has run out of ideas, and needs help. My favorite client is the one who recognizes this need and has the desire to make change happen. It takes courage to risk involving an unknown person in such an intimate process; and it takes courage...
I am a compassionate and effective clinician with over 30 years of experience providing counseling services for youth and families experiencing emotional and mental health challenges. Using a flexible and strengths based approach, I guide clients to clarify goals, overcome barriers, develop skills and coping, and strengthen support networks. I actively use education and skills development to bu...
I believe that in therapy, the focus should first be on learning to gain acceptance of ourselves. I feel that our beliefs about ourselves are paramount because they shape the beliefs that we have about other people and in turn, the rest of our environment. After we identify the beliefs about ourselves that need to be adjusted, we can work on how to improve those beliefs, which will improve our...
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It’s a mindset thing. The way you view what you do will always affect the way you do what you do. That includes your job, you marriage, and your life. The breakthroughs you have been seeking in your life, and in your marriage, start in your mind. I will help you identify the barriers that have been getting in the way of you living your best life, and come up with real and effective actions you ...
( English | español ) It can be challenging finding the right therapist. My name is Francisco and I have dedicated my life to helping people who are struggling with depression, anxiety, life transitions, and relationship issues. It is never easy asking for help, and I admire your courage in doing so. I work with individuals and couples who are desiring a positive change in their lives, just lik...
Your 20s and 30s are an important time of self-determination. If you're feeling stuck or lost, I can help you develop the tools and insights you need to enjoy this time of your life. I specialize in helping high achievers-- young professionals and grad students with academic and workplace adjustment, anxiety, burnout and stress management, multicultural stressors, and relationship and sexual...
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