What is the Gottman Method?

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John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman founded the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy. The method uses assessments, communication skills, and real-life practices and skills to assist partners in becoming closer to one another.

One of the main theories behind the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is the Sound Relationship House theory. The Gottmans assume that partners can grow closer in a relationship by having a solid foundation of understanding. This foundation begins with safety and builds upon itself to include the goal of creating shared meaning.

Anyone who wants to improve their relationship can benefit from the Gottman Method, including married couples or those in a committed relationship.

The Sound Relationship House theory includes tactics such as knowing one another deeply and creating love maps (details regarding partners personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.), sharing fondness of one another, turning to each other for needs, managing a positive perspective, managing conflict, achieving goals and dreams, and creating shared meaning.

Your counselor will work with you and your partner to develop the necessary skills for relating to each other in a more positive, loving way.

The Gottman Method effectively assists couples in resolving conflict and growing closer together.

Therapists Who Specialize in Using the Gottman Method

Melissa Huff, LAC, LAMFT

Van Buren

Arkansas

Do you feel as if your life has a before and after? Do you feel stuck, like you can’t shake what has happened to you or your relationships? I would love the opportunity to help you make sense of your story and build your path forward. Sientes como si tu vida tuviera un antes y después? Te sientes atascado, como si no pudieras deshacerte de lo que te ha pasado a ti o a tus relaciones? Me encanta...
Danielle has a breadth of life experience that allows her to bring a unique openness and empathy to her work as a Marriage and Family Therapist. Danielle is trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and is passionate about helping military families and first responders as well as couples from all backgrounds including LGBTQ+ couples who are often underserved.

Deborah Danner, Ph.D., LCPC, CADC, NCC

Rolling Meadows

Illinois

Deborah Danner has numerous certifications in trauma treatment and focuses sessions on helping you become more empowered in your life. She uses gentleness, honesty, and awareness to help previously ignored parts of you be heard. Patience and self-compassion are the centers of her therapy sessions. Her ultimate goal is to help you regain control of your life and love yourself.