John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman founded the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy. The method uses assessments, communication skills, and real-life practices and skills to assist partners in becoming closer to one another.
One of the main theories behind the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is the Sound Relationship House theory. The Gottmans assume that partners can grow closer in a relationship by having a solid foundation of understanding. This foundation begins with safety and builds upon itself to include the goal of creating shared meaning.
Anyone who wants to improve their relationship can benefit from the Gottman Method, including married couples or those in a committed relationship.
The Sound Relationship House theory includes tactics such as knowing one another deeply and creating love maps (details regarding partners personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.), sharing fondness of one another, turning to each other for needs, managing a positive perspective, managing conflict, achieving goals and dreams, and creating shared meaning.
Your counselor will work with you and your partner to develop the necessary skills for relating to each other in a more positive, loving way.
The Gottman Method effectively assists couples in resolving conflict and growing closer together.
Therapists Who Specialize in Using the Gottman Method
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